Taking Responsibility for Your Eating (and lifestyle)
One of the most difficult things I’ve found about Intuitive Eating (and life in general) is taking responsibility for your actions.
Intuitive Eating is all about letting go of rigid rules and being gentle with yourself. But it is also about discipline–not in the sense of being “so good” for cutting out sugar or having “so much self-control” by not having any birthday cake; but in the sense of…
On Letting Yourself Go…
Confession: I fell behind on work today, and didn’t have the chance to write a new blog. However, as promised, I still plan to be consistent with my weekly posts on Mondays, so I dug this one up from the archives – an oldy but a goodie I think! Hope you enjoy…
Originally written by me, and published for Libero Network on March 8, 2011 here (article has been edited/updated for the purposes of this…
Cheezies and Frosting?
My first encounter with Intuitive Eating was in Anne Lamott’s book Travelling Mercies (on my “must read” list by the way). Like many of us, Anne was coming out of a stage of disordered eating and body dissatisfaction. She was told about Intuitive Eating and she figured “what the heck” and gave it a try. For the first two weeks, she ate nothing but cheezies and frosting.
I know what you’re…
Another Update: Responding to the critics
Personal Note: I know it’s been a long time since my last post, which explained why it had been a long time since my last post before that (thank you everyone for all of your support!) I am breaking the silence now. I posted this on my personal blog but wanted to share it here, too, because I think it’s relevant. Now that I’ve cleared the air (and have organized my time and priorities) I will be…
An Update (saying no to perfection)
I know it has been a long time since my last update, and I also know I have taken a lot of “breaks” over the past few months. There has been a lot going on, and I’ve come to realize that I’ve been allowing perfectionism to get in the way. Some things have happened over the past weeks that triggered me back to some old eating habits and the pressure I had put on myself to be a “perfect eater” sort…
Intuitive Eating Tip: Get Groceries!
Intuitive Eating Tip: Get Groceries! // “Intuitive Eating is all about giving yourself the freedom of choice - but what’s the point if you don’t give yourself any options with which to utilize that freedom of choice?”
I am back after an unnecessarily long hiatus. I do apologize – I’ve decided, though that June is a new month! I started working more full-time now, and I’m sorting out my schedule and priorities and this blog is one of them. So without further discussion, here is one of my biggest Intuitive Eating tips… Go out and get some groceries!
This is one of the things I struggle with the most. Maybe it’s…
simplytrustinghim said: Intuitive eating is obviously my goal, but sometimes I feel like eating everything. My physical repairs are done, but mentally I'm confused. I think that if I would have gotten busy and not depressed last year, I wouldn't have relapsed, and my body would have stabilized in weight and mentally at some point. I just really don't know what to do, so any advice/help would be appreciated! I really don't want to be obsessed with food or messed up mentally all my life.
Hi - I would definitely recommend seeking out a counsellor/therapist and specifically one who specializes in eating disorders if possible. I also highly recommend reading the Intuitive Eating book by Tribole & Resch and any book by Geneen Roth. It’s definitely a process - and it’s important to remember in order to heal on the outside, we need to heal on the inside. Eating Disorder and Disordered eating behaviors are not the problem, they are the symptom, and so we need to get to the root of the issue and that can be done through therapy. All the best - it’s a process but it’s so worth it!
uncaringexpedience said: I'm very new to intuitive eating and I'm used to counting every last calorie, even attempting to calculate after one of my frequent binges. I want to get away from calorie counting but also become a more mindful eater. Do you think an app like myfitnesspal that tracks what you eat would be helpful or harmful?
In my opinion an app like MyFitnessPal would be incredibly harmful. Intuitive Eating isn’t about charting and calculating and obsessing - it’s about trusting. Trusting your body’s ability to feed itself and honouring your hunger/fullness queues and cravings. I also know many fitness apps don’t offer the most balanced, healthy approach to fitness and often embrace many “fitspo” type behaviours, so I would strongly caution you about that.
Finding Substitutes | What counts, What doesn’t
A cucumber is not a substitute for a chocolate bar.
Let me repeat that: a CUCUMBER is not a substitute for a CHOCOLATE BAR.
This may seem like an obvious fact – we’re not even comparing “apples and oranges” here (at least they are part of the same food group). No we are comparing two completely different things, each on a completely different side of the taste-o-meter.
Yes, I did just make…
Anonymous said: not sure if this is the same blog that i read a couple of years ago when i was suffering from EDNOS and big periods of binges/restriction. when i first read it i thought it was stupid, but now i've converted & feel so much better, thankyou. i still don't drink softdrink cos it's just gross, but i don't obsess over what i eat (though sometimes i don't care so much that i just don't bother to eat which is bad). i actually lost the 8kg gained from bingeing, by eating this way, without meaning to..
A: It might be! I’ve definitely been writing here for a couple years :) I am so glad that you “converted”! This is such great news!
Thanks for stopping by and leaving an update!
Anonymous said: Hi, I'm new to the concept of intuitive eating and have some questions. I'm pretty sure I've struggled with an undiagnosed ED for several years. I'm concerned that I generally eat in an unhealthy way. I'm tired of battling my appetite all the time, but how do I know what to eat and when? I find it hard to tell when I'm really hungry vs. when I just think I am. I am exercising regularly as well. Also, will my body naturally lose the excess fat I have? Thanks!
Thank you for your questions! I will answer them in order:
1) How do I know what to eat and when?
You just have to trust your body. I know that sounds simplistic, but it’s true. Trusting your body isn’t easy at first - you have to learn to listen to it - but that’s where the principles of Intuitive Eating come into play! Start listening/feeling for your hunger queues and when you feel the hunger urge come along, stop and take a moment and think about what you really want to eat in that moment - and then do your best to fill that craving. I wrote on this in my Eating Guidelines series, here is the link:
2) I wrote about this, too: http://honouringappetite.wordpress.com/2013/03/18/theat-when-you-are-hungry — you have to learn to listen to your body and really listen for those hungry/fullness queues. It takes time and practise, but it will come.
3) Intuitive Eating isn’t about weightloss or weight gain. It’s about allowing your body (and mind) to return to it’s natural state of feeding itself with the goal of self-preservation. This means that over time, your body will reach and maintain your natural, healthy weight. This may come from weight loss or weight gain or no weight change at all - I can’t guarantee which it will be, but I can guarantee that body satisfaction will come with it whether your body changes or it doesn’t - because at the end of the day it’s not about changing your body; it’s about changing your thoughts.
Hope this helps!
As always, I recommend reading “Intuitive Eating” (the official book” by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch AND any (and all) of Geneen Roth’s books.
The Eating Guidelines: #7 Eat with Enjoyment, Gusto, and Pleasure!
We are at the end of our Eating Guidelines series. I sincerely hope you’ve enjoyed the last few article and have found them helpful. If you have any topics you’d like me to cover in upcoming blogs (or ideas for another series) please comment below.
And now that we know “how” to eat, it’s time to finish things off with a celebration…Guideline #7: Eat with Enjoyment, Gusto, and Pleasure!